Whip Smart by Melissa Febos
Reviewed by GGGinny
What I drank: well, my foot is broken so Im playing this fun game of toeing the line between getting happily tipsy and knowing Im going to fall over when I have to use the bathroom in the middle of the night. Pink wine was my drink of choice.
A dark, wild, powerful memoir about a young woman’s transformation from college student to professional dominatrix
While a college student at The New School, Melissa Febos spent four years working as a dominatrix in a midtown dungeon. In poetic, nuanced prose she charts how unchecked risk-taking eventually gave way to a course of self-destruction. But as she recounts crossing over the very boundaries that she set for her own safety, she never plays the victim. In fact, the glory of this memoir is Melissa’s ability to illuminate the strange and powerful truths that she learned as she found her way out of a hell of her own making. Rest assured; the reader will emerge from the journey more or less unscathed
Drunk Overview: Melissa was a professional dominatrix for a few years in NY. This books covers the lead up to, the work, and then a bit of post credits.
Drunk Thoughts: fuck this book
- For a professional dominatrix, she has 0 respect for her clients. The disdain literally drips from every word in this book, even years after.
- Not to ruin anything, the the last portion of this book was Melissa coming to terms with why she looked down on her coworkers and clients and clearly she hasnt done enough work where that was concerned
- Im not gonna yuck anyones yum but a lot od the acts in this book are not things Im interested in at all, but at the same point, these poor people went to a place where they could have their needs serviced and were being mocked mercilessly.
- I know namea were changed, but I still cant get over how cruelly they were treated in this book
- Frankly this book felt more like mean girls gossip in high school than it did an actual memoir.
- I say this because her recovery, both from drugs and leaving sex work, were treated aa after thoughts
- The author briefly mentions revelations about whe she looked down on everyone, but that was it.
- I know this is nonfiction so things wont be wrapped up in a pretty bow, but I would have hoped that anyone with an ounce of self reflection would have figured out a way to get over that condescension years later when writing a book.
- If its not clear, this book was a huge disappointment. Instead of actually talking about the overall experience this book was fixated on the authors drug use, small-minded thinking, and disgust for her clients.
- While the book ostensibly gets into the details it promised (why someone goes into the industry, why someone leaves it, and what it’s like) I feel like all those discussions were surface level and were passed over to let the audience laugh at the absurdity.
What it Pairs With: No. It pairs with nothing.